Life Skills: Who do you know that’s controlling, critical, bitchy, flaky, fat?
|January 10, 2011||Filled under Love & Relations, Life, Life Skills, 1st, 7th, Aspects, Life Coaching, Mind, Natal, Type of Astrology|
- Do you control yourself consciously? Do you find yourself being critical, bitchy, flaky, fat often?
- Are there certain people who are too hard on you in your life? Better question: Are you too hard on yourself?
When you notice that someone is too picky, critical, controlling, argumentative, defensive, dominant, aggressive, [insert non-social behaviour here] do you take a moment to recognize and honour that in yourself too? If you are not, you may be acting out a Projection or what I like to call The Like-Me Principle.
Are you Like Me?
The Like-Me Principle ™
The Like-Me Principle ™ proposes that whatever you like about me, you like about yourself and whatever you don’t like about yourself, you don’t like about me. Whatever you like or dislike can be something you possessed in the past or present or something you want or wanted to possess but did not assert.
Think about it. We rarely see, take notice, pay attention in others what we do not see in ourselves. How else can we know what we don’t know? And so the saying goes: It takes one to know one. Whether we behave in that way now or in the past, we recognize what we possess, possessed, don’t want to or want to possess (but are not asserting) in others for better or worse.
Instead of taking notice of a dissimilarity, attempt to understand and accept not only those aspects in the other but also in yourself for better or worse. We are more alike than we remember. Through acceptance, we can begin to heal, develop, and grow and as human beings I imagine we can agree that that’s what we want for ourselves and others.
If you are being too hard on yourself, then the other will also be hard on you too. Not because they are but because you are. So if you think someone is judging, controlling, criticizing… If you think the other is being too hard on you, ask yourself: Am I judging, controlling, criticizing myself? Am I being too hard on them?
An Astrological Perspective
With an opposition, you and other are very much alike but it gets perceived as you and other being the complete opposite.
Are you like the other (Conjunction) or against (Opposition)? Are you like or against yourself? Or can you see the similarities and realize you are more alike than different?
We are not always projecting but often we are. The more conscious you are of projecting, the less likely you will be annoyed by yourself and others and project your stuff. 😉 Instead, you will start recognizing yourself in others and feel like a comrade and begin to like the other (and therefore, yourself) more.
Projection starts in the 7th house and continues around the natal wheel in varying degrees and focus. In the first house, we may say: Everyone likes me, is like me, they are like me, I want them to be like me and I am like them and you may rebel against that. And when we get to the 7th house, we may say everyone does not like me, is not like me, they are not like me, I do not want them to be like me or I am not like them and you may want to change that.
Astrologically, projection is similar to the Sun opposition Moon aspect which is AC Opposition DC or Self Opposition Other (Mother-figure, Emotional self…), etc… and projection often begins with Sun opposition Saturn AC or self Opposition Society, Father-figure…
Can you recognize yourself in others for better or worse?
Can you say: Yes I can? If you can, that”s the first step to: having your ego-in-check, getting along better with yourself and others, understanding and accepting yourself and others, and being on a higher vibration of Jupiterian abundance! The next step, if not already doing it, is catching yourself in the act of projection. I’m still at this stage myself! 😉 But I’m getting better and better at spotting it!!
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