8th House Virgo Stellium, 12th House Survivors: Helping Those Who HIDE From Themselves
|October 31, 2010||Filled under Love & Relations, Life, Mind, Neptune, Pluto, Self-disclosure|
I have had a knack all my life for helping people who won’t, can’t, not-sure-how, or don’t help themselves. They are the honey; I’m the bee. I’m naturally attracted to 12th house characters who often have the greatest difficulty in resolving their issues. Just as quickly as a problem or solution is identified, it can be forgotten. :/ And these personalities are exceptionally strong, mysterious, love holding on to the past (comfort zone), and are resistant to change.
When I was 12 I wished upon that birthday cake for a troubled future lover whom I could heal. At 12!! I asked for that. I’m a strange bird. And wow, the universe does deliver so careful what you wish for.
Because I took in my fair share of injured animals, I was delayed in getting to the point where I could have a long term marriage with someone who could function in a partnership. Someone who had enough health to stand on their own two-feet.
I want to help people release their demons (releasing the devil from within) and I even once witnessed a cry so loud and deep that it vibrated my insides, literally. In fact, a lot of people shed “release tears” around me and I’m just the kind of person who can handle that and many times encourage it. I’m an intense person and can handle intensity more than the average bear. Unfortunately neither myself or the other person have had the professional training or tools to do anything with that so it’s often like poking around in the dark hoping you don’t bump into something and hurt yourself. So while I’m a natural depth psychologist and a happy dappy 3 life path person, a demon is a demon!!
People often complain to me that they didn’t get this and that from family, ex-lover, friend. For some strange reason I want to be that person who gives them what they always wanted — to release that old wound once and for all. Perhaps it’s that 8th house stellium in Virgo or my Cancer on the 7th house cusp because I certainly have the strength (ah, not so much anymore) and nurturing desire to handle 12th house issues. Or maybe it’s some twisted way for them to get some relief by unleashing their demon on to me, tucking it back in, and then being off on their merry way again until they can’t take it anymore again. Has anyone else had this happen to them? However, helping people express their emotions when a) they didn’t ask for direct help (just complaining) or b) they have no constructive outlet for it (no matter what strategies I give) is unhealthy.
I don’t believe in suppression, especially driven parentally; however, I’m starting to believe that (for some) suppression or 12th house behaviours are a necessary evil. Some people do need to be locked up for their own good and for the good of others because I have often discovered VERY GOOD reasons for why there’s been a restriction that either was not explained well enough by those that restricted or where there’s an inability or refusal to accept the reason on the part of the restricted.
I grew up with a fair amount of freedom but when I reflect on where I was held back it was in communication (talking) and I believe there is a reason for that too. Being authentic and just saying what’s on your mind can be very dangerous for yourself and others if not appropriately censored as necessary. I didn’t always have the mindset to do this and it’s still a struggle today.
Sometimes it’s for the best that someone doesn’t get all their wants met unless they are of the type to accept the result of their actions.
I have had a bad habit of falling for stray cats, emotionally unavailable or immature people and I really want no more of that unless it’s in a paid situation where the other is invested in the process of healing just as much as I or they demonstrate (which also includes asking) that they want help and can do something with that help.
Often I think of becoming a psychologist because it’s naturally something I’m good at. I also feel anyone who sees a psychologist or someone like me, invests their time, money, and energy to take in what I can do for them and to self-heal through that process.
Anyway, I do love a good mystery as long as it has a happy (solved) ending.
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