Natal & Synastry Astrology: The Solution to Venus Square Saturn in Love – Part Two
|February 20, 2011||Filled under Love & Relations, Astrology, Aspects, Natal, Synastry|
The Venus Square Saturn Solution, Part Two
As I wrote this, I realize I know a lot of people with Venus Square Saturn natally and a lot of my synastry (compatibility) with others causes one or both of us to have a hard Venus-Saturn aspect. I wasn’t happy to write this since I’m such a Venusian and I believe restricting oneself from love is harmful to self and other. So I felt sad. 🙁 I have Venus Trine Saturn natally and I have a tendency to stay in and attract long-term connections even when no physical connection is present. Anyway, I”m going to tell you how I think you can help yourself or someone else get in touch with love. For now, this is what it looks like…
The lesson of Venus Square Saturn is to be responsible, discipline enthusiasm, yet care about the feelings of others and yourself. Let the love grow slowly and deeply yet nurture it all the same. Love, being in-love, and first love feelings can be delicious; however, if your or the other person’s heart is not open to love, it won’t happen or it will happen with a lot of tension. Everything must come from a mature state! Avoid getting wrapped up in fears, restrictions, and responsibilities. Explore challenges and don’t give up on the love no matter how challenging it appears. Learn to adjust expectations and be prepared to love differently.
My solution for the natal manifestation of this aspect is for the native to be aware of the tendency to sabotage being in and finding love and to learn how to not withhold love from self or other, to balance the need for wanting to do the right thing with doing something that soothes and softens the spirit. To be sure to let others know your fears but to also be willing to do something about it. To not just lean on the other to solve the problem. Or perhaps just enjoy being single – it’s okay, really.
The native with Venus square Saturn is trustworthy and will not enter a relationship they don’t plan on staying in. This makes for a loyal and trusted companion. However, having Venus Square Saturn can keep a native from having a complete and happy love- life that glitters with gold because it wants the gold from the start and love takes time to develop and sometimes, yes, it does end and the investment in the person is lost but not in yourself and your development. You get to keep that! The Square aspects ask you to keep it real but it still wants you to explore.
Synastry-wise, if a couple is lucky or bold enough to get their relationship off the ground, ideally they will keep in mind the need for one or both parties to be responsible and remain true to their commitments and duties that society deems necessary, to not belittle their need and desire to get stuff done even in the face of a budding romance because life is full of tasks and duties irrespective of love feelings. To help your lover accomplish their tasks and responsibilities so a path of love can be created. This aspect works well with couples who are not in a hurry or rush to materialize a relationship or encounter as it could take some time to get it off the ground in the first place. Patience, my friends. Beautiful and enduring friendships are often the result of Venus Square Saturn when one or both natives do not have romantic chemistry or can not / do not want to leave or adjust their societal commitments.
Now lets take a step back… Venus is most at home with Taurus Trining Saturn’s Capricorn. Libra (Venus) squares off with Capricorn (Saturn). Both Venus and Saturn here want their own way and they don’t want to understand each other. Venus says: How can you NOT love me? I’m beautiful, sweet, a piece of heaven and Saturn just looks at Venus and says: You are vain, impractical, superficial, and don’t understand that money or love doesn’t grow on trees. Yet when the sensual and practical Taurus Venus is channeled, a Venus Square Saturn contact can be rewarding if a) both parties or the native understand that practical things need to be taken care of first before love can bloom and to get on with it b) the couple /native ensures that the relationship or love life gets a dose of sugar too now and then.
Finally serious love are key working concepts when loving and being loved with the Venus Square Saturn energy. Therefore, ensuring there’s a feeling of commitment, before and during the inevitable fears, is essential for happiness and staving off the desire to parent, scold the partner for not wanting to focus on either the mundane or beautiful aspects of life is important too. Working and loving, together as a team, when one with the strength nurtures the other with the challenge and vice versa, surely will bring success in the connection.
Update: April 8, 2011
Recently, in an astrology group there was talk about Venus-Saturn in hard aspect and a comment was made about “High Expectations”.
I kept thinking about the comment about “high expectations” because I was talking about this theme in my own life for a week or so as it relates to my Neptune Opposition Saturn (synchronicity)… 🙂
Anyway, recently I took this “Narcissism” quiz http://www.0eb.com/ that’s been going around. I scored 12. Anyway, I observed that I had high expectations (entitlement) and a non-existent taking (exploitativeness).
With the quiz results, I confirmed and further discovered that if I take more, my expectations will go down. Why? Because I would have already received my due through taking what I deserved at that time rather than *subconsciously* believe it would somehow come back to me at a later date.
What does this have to do with Venus in hard aspect to Saturn or High Expectations? Well, hubby and I were chatting (we have Mercury Sextile Uranus in synastry — yay!!) about an unrelated aspect and it got me thinking…
Possibly a reason why the native with Venus-Saturn in hard aspect has *high expectations* is that they either “give too much love” or “don’t take / receive any” and maybe vacillate between the two with an opposition.
So if the native would just start TAKING (if they are too Venus) love without thinking they deserve it, are worthy of it, or whatever AND / OR RELEASE (if they are too Saturn) what they give… their *expectations* will lower because they will get their needs for affection and esteem met “then and there” without feeling used or under-appreciated.
What I call “conscious giving and taking” rather than “unconditional love” that we are *told* to do but does not work for everyone because we all have different karma or stuff we are working out.
And that’s one more solution or *strategy* for Venus-Saturn in hard aspect.
Am I ever going to fall-in-love or be with the one I love if I/we have Venus Square Saturn?
While I’m calling the Venus Square Saturn The Romeo & Juliet Aspect for a reason, keep in mind or know that there are other aspects in a chart that can alleviate or neutralize its effect. Then again there are other aspects that can further weaken this challenging aspect too. Also there are reasons for this aspect existing in the first place and it’s just a test. You are meant to jump the hurdle successfully and reap the fruits of your labour. It’s just that you need to want it and to work for it. But if you have always sucked or exhausted with studying and failed tests because of that, this aspect isn’t going to be kind to you.
You may also be interested in reading Saturn’s Test: Astrological Squares in Aspect — How to Overcome Them and Get on With It and consider turning this Square into supercharged Trines. As well as Part One of Venus Square Saturn if it hasn’t already been reviewed.
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