Are you good or bad? Naughty or Nice? Whose to say?
|November 3, 2010||Filled under Love & Relations, Career, Life, Mind, Self-disclosure|
Some people think I’m evaluating their goodness or badness when in fact I’m evaluating whether something works or not and whether there’s hurt or not.
To evaluate good or bad is to evaluate a belief system based on parental, familial, personal and/or societal values and opinions.Â I can not see how I could do that with a straight face because belief systems are subjective and open to a wide variance.
No, I comment on whether something serves the greater good and I get agreement for the facts.Â And that makes me wonder why some people think I’m deciding on whether they are good or bad when I’m not.
I do not deny someone their feelings because it’s personal and I expect that agreed upon facts or my personal feelings will not be denied or disregarded either.
My personal code of ethics include one simple thing:Â Am I hurting anyone? If I’m not alerted (with sincerity) to doing that, then I go ahead with care.Â So ’tis true that if I feel someone is stomping on me, others, themselves or the businesses we run, I will comment on it.
I comment on what doesn’t work and get an agreement.Â It’s not about being good or bad, right or wrong.Â My wish is to engage in a neutral problem-solving and resolution activity.
So lets push the ego aside and get to the heart of the matter or I may end up labelling you naughty afterall…
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