Synastry & Natal: The Divorce Aspect – Venus Square Uranus in LOVE – Problem & Solution
|November 3, 2010||Filled under Aspects, Astrology, Natal, Synastry|
Venus Square Uranus is an astrological aspect that can show in a natal birth chart or it can be a combined energy that occurs between the native and someone else. This aspect is a hot and cold one in that there’s a lot of excitement and heat that can get generated instantaneously (love-at-first-sight) about something or someone but just as quickly and intensely a cold, staleness can set in making the native or pair want to either high-tail it out of a situation or cause some commotion to bring the fire and passion back in. So if the native or pair has Venus Square Uranus in their chart, “never a dull moment” is their motto.
Venus square Uranus in Synastry Generally a relationship with this aspect between the partners has lots of excitement but little stability. You may get together in a sudden, whirlwind romance and break with each other just as quickly, unless there are other stabilizing aspects between you. The Uranus person may feel the Venus person is too clingy and emotional; the Venus person may find the Uranus person erratic, unreliable and – perhaps – a touch too eccentric or kinky. Awakening Astrology
Venus square Uranus in Natal Left-T (a Libra) from Yahoo Answers says: “This aspect always affects,one way or another, separations or problems in love affairs and relationships. This aspect brings much confusion between love [Venus] and friendship [Uranus]. You may win friends easily but you aren’t committed to them, except socially or superficially. Love, however, is more difficult, because of the demands involved and the limitations on your freedom.”
Venus rules Taurus and Libra, in different ways, and Uranus rules Aquarius. When connected to Taurean energy there’s a natural square (Saturnian energy) between these two planets yet when Uranus (ruling Aquarius) is connected with Venus’ Libra (trine) it can get along quite well. This means that Venus Square Uranus can be a rewarding or challenging energy but likely, given Libra is mostly a guest of Venus and has a bit of a push-pull don’t upset the apple cart with the naked truth nature already, this aspect tends to be experienced as a challenge overall — kind of like riding a bull in a crowded bar with a whole bunch of hot and sweaty lovers-to-be. Taurus’ Venus prefers her lover to be steady and sure… a warm fireplace with some fine wine after dinner but Uranus is a bit of a rocker and he’s right at home with a BBQ, burger, and beer.
The Venus Square Uranus Solution
My solution for the natal manifestation of this aspect is for the native to be aware of the need for excitement and speed and to learn how to slow down and savour that yummy bit of dark chocolate, to appreciate every bit of it, and to know that it’s going to taste just as good if not more so the next time the native gets to enjoy it. To also be sure to alert others of antsy feelings and to offer up solutions to spice up a relationship. Or perhaps just enjoy dating or unconventional love arrangements like you would a guilt-free dessert – it’s okay, really. The native with Venus square Uranus also has the uncanny ability to tell if love, ahead, will work out in a conventional way and therefore they might suddenly end a relationship before it has ran its course because they know it won’t work out down the road in the ideal way that is visioned and they don’t want to deal with heart-break later on. However, consider, that most relationships are not forever and more, to enjoy every moment with the one you love now, an unconventional relationship is not a bad thing, and as long as you invested emotions and have other ties heart-break will happen anyway. Square aspects ask you to keep it real
Synastry-wise, if a couple gets their relationship off the ground and into something traditional looking, ideally they will give each other a lot of space, freedom with date nights and weekend get-a-aways that engage other people (friends, strangers, etc.). This aspect also works well with couples who are away from each other due to work but where one of them is the anchor (stay-at-home) i.e. a sales person or executive and stay-at-home mom or dad, a truck driver and an artist, an emergency room doctor and a 9-5’er, a retiree and a PH.D. student (of age, of course ;). In other words there’s a reason for the distance and the distance is present at the start of the relationship. Now lets take a step back… remember sweet Libra rooming with Taurus at Venus’ place? Well, Venus’ Libra naturally wants to soak up, ingest, and absorb everything Uranus has to offer until there’s nothing left. That’s how this aspect can be rewarding if a) both parties or the native understand there can very well be a shelf-life to the relationship to make room for the next best thing and that’s welcome or b) the couple /native ensures that the relationship or love life stays exciting, interesting, and fresh so it never comes to a feeling or sense of “nothing left”. Finally acceptance and freedom are key working concepts when loving and being loved with the Venus Square Uranus energy. Therefore, ensuring there’s a feeling of safety and security, before and during the inevitable distancing happens, is essential for emotional happiness and staving off jealousy and possessiveness should one of the lovers not be of a Uranian disposition natally.
Am I doomed if I / we have Venus Square Uranus?
While Venus Square Uranus in synastry is known as The Divorce Aspect for a reason, keep in mind or know that there are other aspects in a chart that can alleviate or neutralize its effect. Then again there are other aspects that can further weaken this challenging aspect too. Also there are reasons for this aspect existing in the first place and it’s just a test. You are meant to jump the hurdle successfully and reap the fruits of your labour. It’s just that you need to want it and to work for it. But if you have always sucked at studying and failed tests because of that, this aspect isn’t going to be kind to you. You may also be interested in reading Saturn’s Test: Astrological Squares in Aspect — How to Overcome Them and Get on With It
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Challenged, blocked, tension, discomfort, conflict, needed adjustments, stubborn, irregular, hang-up, restrain, restrict, shut-off, obstruct, thwart, pressure, stress, struggle, testing, delay, Saturn
Change, shock, excitement, rebel, instability, youth, active, masculine, teenager, twists and turns, race car driver, fast, ignite, on-fire, arousing, unconventional, knowledge, liberation, freedom-seeker, individual, independent, chaotic, disruptions, surprises, extended family in friendships, technology, groups, networks, loose associations, ideals, goals, activism, freedom, separation, differences, the intellectual, the future
Love is challenged by twists and turns. Sudden breaks in love are upsetting. A “let’s get it on nature” is hampered by a “let’s take our time” response then vice versa. The desire for affection is conflicted by a need for distance. Shocking separations block happiness. The masculine principle thwarts the feminine. Long distance love affairs. Love found through technology. Sudden awareness of love that will go wrong. Twists & turns test co-operation. Future love knowledge restricts relationship. Relationship feels unstable. Thinking the grass is greener on the other side. Changing lovers. Sudden disconnection of contact causes tension. A two-timer. Swingers. On & off relationships.
Special note: While using the brainstorming technique is nothing new for me, this post is dedicated to astrofix who inspired me to use this technique to gain a stronger understanding of astrological aspects (I used it with Tarot in the past). She, of course, does a better job of it than I.
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What Others Have to Say!
Tribe | Yahoo Answers | Linda-Goodman Forums | Cafestrology | Sasstrology | Astrology-Numerology | Sky View Zone | AstroText | AstrologyWeekly | AstrologyNotes | Elsa Elsa| Random Board | Random Q&A AstroFix (Brainstorming Astro Genius) — Given the article above and your own knowledge of square aspects, sleuth out the awesome square insights from this brainstorming delight. In other words, the AstroFix article is about Venus contacting Uranus and is a mixed-bag of contact types which can include other aspects such as a conjunction, trine, sextile, etc.
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