Synastry: The Fairytale Aspect – Venus Square Neptune
| August 2, 2010 | Filled under Love & Relations, Astrology, Synastry |
Astrologers around the world often say that one of the worst “red flag” aspects two people can have in a romantic synastry comparison is Venus Square Neptune. If you and your person of interest has this in your synastry chart are you going to choose to agree or disagree with this thought?
First, lets get a feel for what this aspect configuration says in a simplified way:
Venus –> Love, affection, art, balance, sensuality, beauty, softness, receptivity, femininity, passivity, happiness, peace, contentment, nature, earthly pleasures, idealizing, brown & pink, tradition, co-operation, indulgence, service, devoted, the muse, kindness, compassion
Square –> Challenged, blocked, tension, discomfort, conflict, needed adjustments, stubborn, irregular, hang-up, restrain, restrict, shut-off, obstruct, thwart, pressure, stress, struggle
Neptune –> Dreams, illusions, stupors, letting go, dissolution, disillusionment, disappointment, cheating, idealizing, metaphysical, drunken, magic, thirsty, salt water, spiritual, quietness, enchanting, retreat, spas, trance, chaos, craziness, smoke & mirrors, glamorizing, subconscious, intangible, temptation, sacrifice, martyr, suffering, confusion, emotions, delusions, insincerity, hypnotic, boundless, altered reality, photographic, filmography, subversions, devotion, psychic, fantasy, deception, ghosts, visions, visionary, abstraction, secrets, the hidden, invisible, anesthetics, sponging, abuse, the psyche, alcohol, drugs, running away, disorder, silence, intoxication, unemployment, giving, steamy, blue & green, indulgence, gas, fog, merging, mystery, veil, the divine, addictions, neuroses, drowning, betrayal, evasion, helpless, acceptance, higher states of consciousness, Kundalini, escapism, vulnerability, weakness, transcendence, inspiration, imagination, the muse, hallucination, sleepiness, mysticism, secret society, subtlety, mystical creatures, otherworldly, artistry, acting, make-believe, poison, fakery, colour
Note: Venus rules Libra and Taurus. Â Neptune rules Pisces. Â To get a better understanding of a planet (and vice versa) look to the attributes of the sign. Also Neptune (who is physically larger than the planet Venus) can be seen as a much lighter version of Pluto and more “internal” or “introverted” or a higher vibration of Venus.
As we know, anything can be spun for or against. So lets spin this aspect negatively and then positively.
Against
Fake love
Libra Venus Activated (inconjunct to Pisces)… The Fake Love. The love that is had is not real or is unreal and this causes a tension or yearning and wanting to know if the feeling is truth or fiction.
Do you feel the same? (Do you even need to ask if the feelings are reciprocal, clear, and real??)
A lot of confusing or misty things are said and done (sometimes on purpose) and there’s a look of interest when in fact the object of affection just came off the set of a film noir and must of forget they were no longer in role.  What causes Neptune to create such a hurtful illusion? Why does Venus see something that Neptune does not? Because Neptune is the Puppet Master while Venus is the Puppet. Didn’t think soft Neptune was capable of such manipulation? Think again. It’s the dark side of Neptune. Illusions are created and these illusions cause one to feel a sense of euphoria while the fantasy is being enacted by both audience member (Puppet) and performer (Puppeteer).  Flaws and things not to be seen are often hidden by make-up, lighting, illusion, etc..
You and I are the (superficial) ideal romantic leads, don’t you know? Isn’t it perfect??
And then there’s the feeling of getting drunk, being addicted to a drug, and finally being in a stupor — unable to concentrate on worldly matters — becoming the standard preference.  But it doesn’t feel right and in fact it feels downright unhealthy and destructive as things that were once exciting and enjoyable become drab and unimportant in comparison to the web of fantasy weaved.
Fin as in finished is often what is seen at the end of such movies of fantasy. Will there be a happy ending between the Knight and his damsel in distress or the Queen and her servant?
For
Spiritual love
Taurus Venus Activated (sextile to Pisces)… The Grounded Love. The love had is real; however, it is beyond the scope of a normal love relationship and therefore defies description. In fact due to the lack of definition, any physical manifestation of the feelings of spiritual love shared between the couple are most often only expressed between the couple because there is no way to explain it to the outside world. The connection is magical in so far as it inspires the feeling of fatedness, eternal and timeless bonds. It’s a perfect fit that either love more than likely has not felt before or has felt infrequently. The otherworldly feeling is often uncomfortable, it’s foreign after-all, and a desired solid footing is sought but hard to get. In fact this couple could be said to feel as if they were drifting in and around the divine heavens. This uncomfortable spiritual love is between heavenly and earthly experience.
If both parties understand what is, is not, and want to enjoy a higher Aquarian form of relating, this can be a most exquisite connection between two enlightened souls.  To enjoy spiritual love, clarity and consciousness of what is happening is important.  There can not be any misty, muddled things said and done otherwise a disclaimer ought to be tagged along with it. It’s your love remember. Don’t hurt Venus with lies for she will be hurt enough with the truth. And in due time she will heal from that and Venus will strengthen and overcome the tests that Neptune constantly give.
A clear purpose can be defined, self-control enacted, a safe haven created, and an openness for each person to love others (unconditional love) because that’s more than probable if other aspects in the chart comparison or natals do not favour monogamy. Flaws are to be unearthed and spoken of with raw honesty sparing no hurt feelings. Â Arriving to the destination more quickly ensures that the couple doesn’t fall asleep at the wheel. So part the fog — the veil — to reveal the true love (the divine ideal) that can and does exist between you. Do not allow a temporary ideal fantasy or romance cloud the perfect and ever-lasting love to be had.
Conclusion
Venus Square Neptune is hard for most to transmute into a positive experience. The power and pull of Neptune is so great with society and Neptune causing a challenge for this love to be expressed in a higher setting.
Fake love is aroused by an addiction to love. With Venus Square Neptune, playing things up to get more and more of a high or to get a high back is the game. Many are able to overcome this addiction and grow into grounded and inspired love; however, the potential for falling off the wagon (so-to-speak) is always present. Therefore, it’s important to watch for that and keep the lines of communication open. Face the truth, head-on.
If there is enough positive aspects in your synastry you may want to choose to work very hard at lessening or transmuting the damaging effects of this aspect. Otherwise, the old sage advice given is: Run, don’t walk. Close that door and don’t look back. The Venus Square Neptune aspect in synastry is NOT for the faint of heart, mind, body, or soul; however, it doesn’t have to be the kiss of death either. Having said that, if there’s not an interest or an ability to work hard at seeing through or divinely touching the other side of the veil and there isn’t enough positive, healing, and easily enjoyable aspects to soften the hard challenge of this aspect, don’t bother. Seriously.
And if you are already in such a relationship or have been pulled into an abyss with a one-sided love but don’t know what to do, I’m glad to be of professional service to help you through the murky waters of love.
Questions, dear Reader:
- Are you for or against the Venus square Neptune aspect in a love match?
- How has this aspect manifested itself positively or negatively in your relationship? Did the relationship even get off the ground??
- Which, do you believe is more of a romance than the other? Â Â The type of love that makes you feel high and excited or the type of love that makes you feel content and safe?
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